Part thirty-three: Habits
The most popular books of our time are about customs and how to adapt them. It looks like we’re too lazy to achieve any success in life. We have too many bad habits, which hampers us in financial, health and family matters. We are also bombarded 24 hours a day from all sides with news and incentives so that we cannot focus on what is essential. Having a few positive rules will be facilitated on the way to happiness.
I’m not a fan of customs; you have to know. It is usually the prison of your mind. It is also the awareness that from now on you will be forced to repeat a given activity over and over again. Because we humans get bored quickly and instead of learning useful manners, we start to get stressed, take an offensive stance and end up in depression. However, I am also aware that without repeating a given activity, I will not go anywhere and will not achieve any success.
Therefore, to adopt a new habit, you have to like it. There’s no philosophy here. However, most of this positive practice look like a pain in the ass. I don’t think there’s a better word for it. Also, remember that what makes one person happy does not necessarily have to be to another human being. What works theoretically must be tested in practice. Otherwise, you are unable to determine whether the activity is contributing to anything.
Following a further course of thinking, adopting good habits will be tedious work on oneself. To change something, it is recommended to give up something else. In our eyes, this is often impossible, unpleasant and pointless. In our thinking, we tend to create “everything or nothing”; which is a total mistake. That’s why it’s so hard for us to convert things. On the other hand, we are perverse, and we want to do things our way. It is difficult for us to accept that someone else may be right.
While studying a couple of books with good habits, I concluded that there is a pleasant method of adaptation and transform for the better. And by the way, not putting yourself in a state of lethargy and hatred. This tactics are straightforward and based on mental balance, but maintaining peace of mind. Here they are:
It’s not about you. It’s about the things you do.
I could never understand why all the press releases said there was something wrong with us. To say that we are not perfect beings is outrageous. And a good change must begin with a transformation of you. It sounds like we’re not worth a cent. But we are perfect, just as we are now. Therefore, the print should not be on the change of yourself, but on the evolution of the activities that we do. It brings excellent relief in self-evaluation, and consequently, our focus reflects on plans and ambitions.
Change the form
I don’t like to cook because it takes a long time to stand in one place. So I put a high chair next to the gas stove, and now I cook sitting down. I love chocolate, but I’m also very aware of the sugar threat, so I learned to make my own, vegan and sugar-free version in three minutes. Also, all ingredients are raw, so they are still alive. I don’t like mornings, so I moved my morning routine to the evening, and in the morning I only do things that make me happy. In other words, the change does not have to be drastic. It’s supposed to serve you, not work against you. It’s also supposed to make your life more comfortable for you, and not annoying you. Even the most unnoticed change can make the new habit not so terrible.
Keep your balance.
Do not give up everything at once or renounce pleasure. There must be balance in life, mental and physical. So we need to find time for work, but also entertainment.
Turn on thinking and create your own habits
Everything comes easier if we are aware that the idea comes from us. Of course, we could have read or heard about any positive behavior somewhere. But we don’t necessarily have to take it literally. It’s not about ignoring the original thought; it’s about a little creativity and thoughtfulness. Not everything can be adapted to your situation, either. It makes sense to bend some rules.
Give yourself time to adapt
It takes time to adjust your routine. How much time depends solely on you. Yes, there are many theories as long as this process lasts. Some say 30 days and some say three months. I think as much as you need. It also depends on the importance of the activity and the circumstances. But even the deadline. For example, having exams the next day, I could read a boring book twice in one day. But when I was changing my diet, it took me two years to eliminate specific substances from my plate.
Have a vision of the result
Changing your eating habits to lose 20 kilos, for example, will be a great achievement. In most cases, we pay attention to adversity and sacrifice. We also imagine how we will suffer from hunger because the whole process is usually based on reducing the number of meals or their calories. (Which is not true). So imagine yourself, 20 kilos lighter, in this beautiful dress or these tight pants and keep this image throughout the process. You can apply this method to everything. Both financially and privately. If you are going to change your attitude towards the other person, imagine your relationship, as it already happens.
It’s just a creation of something new, and we love novelties. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be a massive queue in front of the Apple store to hear that the new phone would be released. Look at change as innovation. Replacing the heavy word “habit” with the curious word “discovery” has a great influence on your way of thinking and acting.
Choose only one thing you want to change and start working on it. Remember, don’t take any more on your back than you can carry.
Good luck with that.