How to be successful happy? 100 ideas for a healthy mind
Part one: Using correct words
To the question asked to my client, whether he prefers to regain hearing in exchange for speech, he said without hesitation that he would prefer to keep speech. It was scary to me, but also intriguing. Because is there really a way to explain something like that in a logical way. It is true that he lost his hearing already fifteen years ago and maybe he is so accustomed to the situation that he does not care much about being able to hear the sound of the outside world, but the loss of speech would be a catastrophe for him. Completely the opposite to me. I prefer to spend time in silence, and when asked about anything, I open my mouth reluctantly. However, I guess there are not that many people like me.
We people love to talk, gossip, sing, scream or lament. And we do it almost non-stop, regardless of whether our interviewer is interested in our arguments. Our speech gives us the guarantee that we are heard, but it does not guarantee that our message reaches the public in a proper way. And you probably think, what kind of magical method is this and what has it got to do with happiness?
It may look like our community is not interested in you, but it resonates with what you say and how you use certain words. Because some words oppress our ego and by using them it gets us in a bad mood and also gets the next listener in a bad mood as well. It works in a very simple way. Imagine a situation, where you get up in the morning feeling bad about yourself and the whole world. As you enter the dining room, where your family is eating breakfast, immediately a quarrel begins, someone pokes someone, someone begins to lament over himself. Next, you imagine the situation that you woke up in a good way instead, going down to the dining room and within 20 seconds each of the household members begins to smile. That’s how your energy works.
Now how do words work? The words also have their own energy. For example, saying ‘not bad’ about something pleasant, the subconsciousness of your callers only catches the word ‘bad’. The same applies to the statements used about yourself. Do you want to make someone feel good saying “I’m not lazy, stubborn or impatient”? In this situation, you already know what the subconsciousness of your interviewer is hearing.
Let’s exchange this for the positive effect you want to create. ‘Not bad’ change to ‘good’, ‘are not bothered lazy, impatient or stubborn’ changes to ‘I’m hard-working, open to ideas and patient’. Every negative word has its counterpart, so start getting caught in using it. Trying to do this daily exercise at some point you will use positive expressions already automatically.
But how does this still translate to happiness? Positive words give positive energy and then positive energy comes to the conversation or your own subconsciousness and reflects on creating the so-called ‘chain drag’. These vibrations come back to you, which makes you feel better. So now, if someone gets up in a bad mood, by saying something positive about him that will certainly brighten up all day, this it will become a chain reaction that will affect every person from here on and at some point will come back to you.
Write down words or phrases on a piece of paper (not on your computer) that are negative and which you often use. In the next column write down the positive words or expressions you can use instead. Then read only the second column and try to start using it in everyday life. Good luck.